The New Moon in Taurus is coming – make yourself comfortable in your body and your life

Ahead of us is the New Moon in Taurus combined with a partial solar eclipse (climax at 8:28 am on Sunday).

This time can help us heal what separates us from our body and thus from being here and now and enjoying life fully.

Taurus reminds us of grounding and receiving the best out of life. Exactly – “receiving”, not “taking”. Receiving means to open up to what is, experience pleasure, and enjoy being in contact with nature and with others. It is about opening up to what is here and now, as well as what the world wants to give us at this moment, instead of struggling to “get” something else.

This process of opening up for receiving begins with letting go and relaxing. It’s good to take advantage of the time of this new moon and just before it to rest, regenerate and generally take care of your body and allow yourself to experience pleasure. It’s also a great time to awaken our sensuality and celebrate life through touch, taste, smells, and sounds…. 

Let’s enjoy the nature around us, and when more difficult topics arise, let ourselves pass them through the body, breathing, observing how the feelings are change, how we can gently release or dissolve tensions, relax and enjoy com back to the now moment.

Venus will also support us at this time, helping us to open ourselves to pleasure and love. This new moon in combination with a solar eclipse may turn out to be a “total eclipse of the heart”. Some of us will catch on to the transformative aspect of this time and strong changes, while others will be more involved in what is pleasant and romantic. The main subjects remain the same – the body and the material aspect of reality.

During this New Moon, we can also perform rituals to invite more abundance and pleasure into our life. It’s a good time to watch carefully our attitude towards the gifts that the world has for us, and what we want to change in this attitude. Before the climax of this New Moon, it is worth looking at our beliefs about finances, our attitude toward money, and our sabotaging behaviors that destroy our feeling of financial security. It’s the right time to release the old stories and tough emotions behind them.

This is also a great time to watch carefully and change if needed our habits of abuse of oneself and others, consumerism, or destructive patterns of dealing with finances and looking for our value in what is external. The transforming power of this new moon is emphasized by Pluto, which while retrograde will bring out what is hidden under the surface. These discoveries might be challenging, but if we trust our bodies, they will guide us through this. It is a strong call to return to the body and to accept what the body tells us. It is another reminder that the body is not there to adapt to our ideas and expectations, but we are here to take care of our body and listen to its wisdom. If you do so,  then you will feel at home in your body. You will feel grounded, relaxed, and supported, by your body. 

I wish you a great New Moon! Make yourself comfortable in your body, and make yourself comfortable in your life! 

Lokahi – harmony, balance, and unity embracing diversity

At the core of Hawaiian understanding of health is Lōkahi (balance or harmony and connection). This is sometimes referred to as the “Lōkahi Triangle”. Health is holistic and the Lōkahi Triangle is about achieving harmony in three areas: mentally, physically, and spiritually. One is healthy when her or his physical, mental, and spiritual aspects are all in balance. According to this tradition, our physical healing cannot occur without resolving problems within the mental or spiritual realm and willingly taking responsibility for our health and all our actions, thoughts, and beliefs.
The Lōkahi Triangle concept goes even further. Three points of the triangle include not only the person but also the environment surrounding that person, relationships with others, particularly family members, ancestors, as well as mental and emotional states.
So Lōkahi also means living in harmony with the world around us. Therefore to keep ourselves balanced, we also need to maintain that same balance within our whānau and hapori.

In other words, in uncertain times, the ideal of lōkahi can be a beacon, one that reminds us to take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually—and to offer that care to our friends and family as they maintain their own state of harmony.

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But, what is very important, Lōkahi is the word for UNITY, but not UNIFORMITY. 
So it is about peace and connections, embracing diversity.
With Lōkahi, we can achieve more than we can alone.

Aloha means to be happy with… my BODY

Presently, I’ve been feeling quite good with my body, despite getting older and being challenged by life experiences, but it wasn’t always like that. To be honest, for most of my life I felt separated from my own body. I used to say sometimes that my body is the strongest obstacle in my life.

At that time I felt so comfortable within my mind, thinking, doing, reacting sharp and fast. I wasn’t even aware that I am also my body until I became sick or felt some discomfort of my physical nature. From that perspective, my body was only a problem. When this problem accrued I wanted to fix it as quickly as possible and come back to my ideal mental world without any physical disruption. It usually worked, so I could live my life for years without any or hardly any contact with my physical self – my body.

When did it change? When did I feel for the first time that my body is not a problem, even that it might be a solution?

In order that our body becomes a solution, we have to have a good relationship with it. It wasn’t the case for me at that time. For me the turning point became massage. Once I tried to find a quick solution for my tired, tensed body and I went for a massage session.

Back then, it was not that easy for me to acknowledge the needs of my body and open myself for an accepting and embracing touch. But it happened. I trusted myself and a person recommended to me by a friend. After that session, the first Lomi Lomi massage I’ve ever received, I felt not only more relaxed, and less tensed, but most of all, I felt more complete. Maybe for the first time in my life, I felt an alliance with my body. From that time my approach to my physical vessel started to change. More acceptance, gratefulness, and tender presence have appeared instead of the judgemental, demanding, and ignoring approach I had before. The more I acknowledged and accepted my body, the better our communication and relationship became. With time I learned to hear those ‘quiet whispers’ and understand better how my body works, what it needs, and how I can support my body, it better supports me back.

What is your relationship with your body? Is your body your ally, close and tender friend, or is it is your enemy, an obstacle in your way, or maybe you are not aware at all of its presence? Do you feel connected and supported by your physical vehicle, or disconnected, suppressed, or limited by it?  Now, these questions are part of my practice as a bodyworker and holistic training facilitator. They appear during workshops with our students, in conversations before and after massage sessions with my clients, and above all, they are still present in my relationship with my own body.

Sometimes energised and uplifted, sometimes extremely tired

I have seen this many times in my massage practice. Sometimes my clients after lomi session with me feel energised and uplifted,
but sometimes they feel extremely tired.

It is not the massage that makes them feel tired. It is their nervous system finally unwinding so they feel themselves again.
Their muscles, with the help of lomi touch, release tensions, and they start to feel how tired they have been all the time, sometimes for many, many years.

When you are stressed, when you’re in survival mode, when you hold everything or constantly push things, you might not feel tired at all. That’s how adrenalin works. Only when you stop to rest, when you take a deep inbreath and relaxing outbreath, you can feel how tired you have been.

This is why sometimes we are so afraid to stop and take a deep breath. Then we might finally start feeling our own bodies, and all kinds of emotions carried inside. From this moment, ignoring them will not be possible anymore.

And you know, that is okay. Sometimes and for some of us, it is the only way. At least for now. When you feel tired, be aware of it and honor it. Slow down and rest. This is exactly what your body is telling you.

If you do not stop, you will be stopped anyhow by your wise body – by an injury, pain, illness, anxiety, depression, fatigue, stress, burnout.
The body has its loving ways. It first communicates with us with a gentle whisper, but when we ignore it, then it will scream. So take good care of your body and yourself, and don’t wait too long.

Diving deeper into Lomi Lomi practice and reading messages from bones

While traveling to North Island this year something happened to me.

Some sunny and windy day while I was visiting Karekare beach a stranger, Maori man came to me and said ‘I have to tell you something. I have two messages for you.’ Before I even asked him from whom are these messages come, he said to me: ‘Wellcome home! Do you know that your ancestors walked this land? I mean the ancestors from thousands of years ago? And now you come back here.’ That was the first message, and from that moment I started to listen to him more carefully. I owe you a small explanation at this point. When I come with my partner Rafal to Aotearoa three years ago I felt that I need some kind of ceremony to welcome this place and people and feel welcomed here. And that day it happened.

As I said there was also the second message. The second one was unclear to me then. It was as follows: ‘You have to dive deeper into your hands-on practice. It is just the beginning. You will learn or you will rather recall more and more.’

We hadn’t met before, he didn’t know who I am and what I do, I hadn’t known him at that stage. Now I know that he is a Matakite, a seer, and a healer with over 30 years of experience. He uses Karakia, energy, Wairua, and physical point work to facilitate healing. He can also see what is hidden, help bring it to the surface to create a better connection.

Now, after few months from that unexpected meeting, I think I am closer to understanding what he meant then.

Recently I started to hear and read messages from bones, about life experiences, emotions, or any other needs of the people, who I am massaging or just touching. Sometimes these messages are very precise, I just know what happened, what needs to be healed, and how to release it, or what needs to be invited. In the beginning, I struggled with it and kept these messages only for myself. I was thinking that it may be my delusions, some kind of autosuggestions I was telling myself that weren’t true. At some point, I dared myself and told my client after the session what his or her bones told me. It was a woman who came to me for the first time and I knew nothing about her. The bones told me some story she carried with her all the time. They said it is time to let go of it, how to do it and that now is the best time to do it. I told this to that woman. I told her that it could only be my imagination and ask her to take only what resonates with her and what she finds useful, and forget about all the rest. Tears appeared in her eyes, she thanked me and said that that was the true story and now she feels ready to let go of all emotions involved and go forward.

Situations like this become more and more often, after  Lomi Lomi sessions I give. Different stories, different messages, and guidance appear to be important and meaningful for my clients when I share what I have heard from their bones. I still feel some reserve and I am very cautious with sharing, and yet I feel it and hear it more and more strongly and precisely.

What does Lomi Lomi Nui massage help with?

… One time a woman came to me with her arm in a sling after surgery.
I asked her if she could remove the sling for the massage and if I could gently include this arm into the massage. She agreed, trusted me and Lomi Lomi. After the session, she showed me how she moves her hand and she decided to not put this arm on a sling.

A man with bowel problems comes to me regularly for a Lomi Lomi session, saying that he has tried many therapies and medications and this massage is the only thing that really helps him.

I had a client in Poland who had been working on  traumatic childhood experience that essentially blocked her sexuality and, to some point, even her self-expression. Years of psychotherapy did not help her, but three Lomi Lomi sessions in a row did.
The list goes on…

…but does it mean that Lomi Lomi “helps” in all these illnesses, physical or emotional, ailments and discomforts? Does it always work? Does it help everyone?

This is how I see it. Lomi Lomi massage helps you embrace your whole being. It restores balance on many levels and allows you to re-connect with all aspects of yourself, including ability of healing. … and from that point on, it can help with everything. Really!
I know, it may sound a bit enigmatic or vague, but this is how I really feel it. It is my experience during and after each massage, no matter what my role is (giver, receiver, or even teacher). 🙂

How does Lomi Lomi Nui massage session with me look like?

Most people who come to me for the Lomi Lomi Nui massages session never had this experience before. Some of them never experienced any massage before. They don‘t know what to expect. And sometimes when we don‘t know, we are afraid or feel discouraged.

Lomi Lomi Nui, is a very special and „different“ message (that‘s what most of my clients say about it) but it’s also just a holistic, therapeutic, efficient, and extremely relaxing bodywork practice with ancient traditional background.

Although each session is unique and different from the others, they all have some structure.

Different massage therapists or bodyworkers have a bit different style or protocol, so when you get Lomi Lomi from somebody else, it might look different.  Please bear in mind that this is how I do Lomi Lomi Nui.

So, how does Lomi Lomi Nui session with me look like?

When you come, we will start with a short talk. I will offer you some herbal tee and ask you a couple of questions – what you need the most from this massage session? what results are you expected?

I will ask about your health – if you had any injuries, or surgery recently, or if there is anything you want to share with me about your health or life situation? You will have time to ask me questions as well.  I will also ask You to think a moment and settle in your mind your intention for this session, like what do you want to release from your body, from your life and what do you want to invite to your body and your life instead. It might be as simple as ‘I just want to relax my tight muscles and feel more with ease in my life’ or as profound as ‘I’m in the life-transforming moment and I need some insights or guidance’. It depends only on you and you don’t have to share this intention with me.

Then I will give you some time in privacy so you can get ready for the session. Leavin the room I will ask you to think about the intention You settled previously and light a candle. Then to take off all of your clothes* and jewelry, put your hair up if it‘s long, lie down on the massage table (on your belly), and cover your body with a pareo/sarong.

During the Lomi Lomi Nui session, your genitals are covered all the time and are not massaged. However, I will ask you to take off your underwear, so I can massage your sides, hips, and gluts. If for any reason, you want to keep your underwear on, it is okay too – in that case, I only recommend that you don‘t wear your favorite undies because they might get oily.

If you can‘t lie on your belly (because, for example, you have some health issues preventing you from lying in this position) I will place you on your side or back.

When you are ready, lying comfortably on a heated massage table, I will come to the room and adjust your position on the table – I will bend your arms and place them next to your body, and rotate your knees and feet a little bit outwards. If you have problems with your, neck, knees, or shoulders, I will make all the necessary adjustments to make sure that you feel comfortable.

After that, I will turn on the music and begin the massage. First I will uncover you, leaving genitals covered with a pareo. I will then apply warm oil on your body and start massaging – usually from the back, moving to the arms and legs. I will be moving your body a lot – bending your legs, stretching and lifting them gently, moving fluently your head, arms, and legs – and you don‘t need to help me in any way, you can just be and breathe.

When I‘m finished massaging your back, I will ask you to turn over:

I will first cover you again with the pareo, then give you a moment to turn, and I will continue massage on the front of your body beginning from your head and shoulders, releasing tensions in this, usually very tight area. And then I will be – again – moving your body a lot, uncovering the parts that I will be massaging  – so your arms, legs, abdomen, and chest. Breasts are not massaged in Lomi Lomi Nui, but I will uncover your chest and massage the chest bone and in-between ribs. I will also be doing under-body movements – putting one or two hands under your body and massage your back in this position. Which is extremely pleasant and relaxing and pretty unique.

The last thing I will massage will be your face.

The whole massage will be around 1.5 h or 2h depends on your chosen option and on what will happen during the session. Every massage is unique and sometimes closing the process demands some extra time.

When the massage is finished, I will cover you with a pareo, turn the music down and give you some time just to lie down, observe, and gently coming back, as long as you need. After the massage, I will again give you some time in privacy so you can get dressed and take a shower if you’d like; then we will have a moment to talk if there will be a need for that. I can share with you my insights and answer your questions if some appear during or after the session. And I will offer you heaps of water 🙂 which is very helpful after any kind of bodywork and supports the cleansing process, which began during the massage session.

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Magical Lomi long-stroke on the back

The Lomi long-stroke on the back sometimes is called the basic move. Basic, because the whole massage practically is built around this one stroke. The secret of this move is in its precision, fluidity, and appropriately applied and steady pressure. The therapist uses his or her body weight, instead of muscle strength to keep the pressure steady.
The completely relaxed and soft forearm of the therapist is very close to the client’s spine – so close that it might look from the side that it’s on the spine – but it’s not. The therapist’s forearm slides into a narrow space between the spine and the muscles of the client, pulling them away from the bones, relaxing them, and making more space to create more flexibility in this area.

My friend Magdalena from Iceland, also Lomi Lomi Nui practitioner and teacher use this metaphor while teaching her students:
‘Imagine that your hand is a boat sailing the infinite ocean of your client’s back. The stroke starts on the neck – this is your harbor, where the journey begins. Make sure that you start the journey right by sliding your hand, wrist, and forearm right in between the neck and the shoulder. Then continue relaxed hand, soft forearm, parallel to the spine. You are a boat sailing on the ocean of the body. Think of bones as reefs – you want to avoid them and stay on the soft waters of the muscles. Your forearm – the boat – gracefully maneuvers between the spine and the shoulder blade, then pivots and continues the journey perpendicularly to the spine. Slowly, with steady pressure, going deeper into the body. It travels along the spine until it meets the crest of the pelvis – this is your cliff. Let your forearm slide gently off the cliff and into the harbor on the side of the body. The journey continues. Now Flip your hand palm up, and find the gate – soft part of the hip between the pelvis and femur. Then climb up the buttock, applying steady pressure to the glutes. Continue until your forearm falls off the muscle. Then go back with a long stroke on the side of the body and get ready for the same journey on the other side. And again, again, again, slower or faster, deeper or more gentle – the endless stroke continues, as if you were drawing an infinity symbol on Client’s back.’

I teach the long stroke on the back on the second day of my training. Therefore my students have plenty of time to practice it, and completely immerse in it during giving and receiving sessions, and fully appreciate this amazingly beneficial movement.

If you want to learn Lomi Lomi Nui with me.
I invite you for a 5-day individual training in Waimairi Beach, Christchurch.

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More gain if no pain. Lomi Lomi Nui & deep tissue massage

There are many misunderstandings around Lom Lomi massage. Many believe that this is very gentle, soft, flowing, nice touch, and… nothing more. Sometimes even Lomi Lomi is mistakenly taken as erotic massage. That’s all wrong. Lomi Lomi, and especially Lomi Lomi Nui, the modality I teach and give my clients, is full body massage. Lomi Lomi touches not only our body but also touches our emotions, minds, and soul as well. But back to the body, Lomi Lomi goes deep into the muscle, all the way to the bones. This massage is designed to effortlessly reach deep tensions in our muscles and joints, and release them, but in a gentle way, without pain. It focuses on the surface of the skin as well as on the deeper layers of muscles.

Many people believe that deep tissue massage has to be a hard and painful treatment when it actually can be very gentle and relaxing. Deep is not the same as hard. Working with the tissue rather than on the tissue is paramount. Deep tissue work is archived by sinking down through the varying layers of not only muscles until we reach the level we intend to treat. But this sinking down is far removed from aggressive, brutal manhandling of the body. It comes with listening and nurturing touch, respect, taking time, intuitive tuning into the body.

During the session of Lomi Lom, tensions in the body are released and the balance is restored causing the feeling of relaxation. And that’s exactly how you should feel after any massage which includes deep tissue work. Deep tissue massage, like Lomi, is not painful, at least should not be painful. Still, some believe that the more you suffer on the massage table, and the more bruises you have after, the better the deal. But the truth is, more gain if no pain.

The emotional benefits of Lomi Lomi Nui

The emotional balance the Lomi Lomi Nui provides can be just as vital and valuable as its physical benefits.

Do you know, that more than 90 percent of illness results from stress alone?

Decreasing physical and emotional stress is important for improving our health and well-being. A 90-minutes Lomi Lomi Nui session can lower cortisol, a hormone that’s produced in response to stress, by an average of 30 percent. When cortisol levels decline, serotonin — one of the body’s anti-pain mechanisms — increases by an average of 28 percent. By lowering cortisol and increasing serotonin, you’re boosting your body’s ability to fight off pain, anxiety, feelings of sadness, and depression.

This Hawaiian massage provides a safe and nurturing place for individuals to relax, refocus, and find clarity. It increases awareness of the mind-body connection, and generates confidence, and enhances self-image and self-worth. Safe nurturing touch helps fulfill the need for human contacts, such as the comforting touch we once received at birth.

For some, massage is the only caring touch they may receive. Lomi Lomi Nui can be considered as a 1.5 or 2 hour-long hug, providing you with a nurturing safe place to rest physically and emotionally.

I provide Lomi Lomi Nui massage for many clients who are living with anxiety and depression, and the day-to-day symptoms those feelings bring. Every one of them finds relief after receiving a 1.5h or 2h massage session of Lomi Lomi Nui, saying they feel more relaxed, calm, and feel a sense of worth. I listen to my clients’ needs, and together, we create a treatment plan that works toward decreasing the symptoms that come with anxiety and depression.

If you are one of the many who experience depression or anxiety or are just overloaded with stress, Lomi Lomi Nui can be an effective part of treatment supporting you to create a sense of relief, empowerment, and the mind-body connection.

When your body, mind, and emotions are in balance, then your
MANA – life-giving energy flows freely and you are able to solve your problems and difficult situations with ease; You become more optimistic, joyful, and ready to act; You just come back to your natural state of well-being, the ALOHA state’