I have seen this many times in my massage practice. Sometimes my clients after lomi session with me feel energised and uplifted,
but sometimes they feel extremely tired.
It is not the massage that makes them feel tired. It is their nervous system finally unwinding so they feel themselves again.
Their muscles, with the help of lomi touch, release tensions, and they start to feel how tired they have been all the time, sometimes for many, many years.
When you are stressed, when you’re in survival mode, when you hold everything or constantly push things, you might not feel tired at all. That’s how adrenalin works. Only when you stop to rest, when you take a deep inbreath and relaxing outbreath, you can feel how tired you have been.
This is why sometimes we are so afraid to stop and take a deep breath. Then we might finally start feeling our own bodies, and all kinds of emotions carried inside. From this moment, ignoring them will not be possible anymore.
And you know, that is okay. Sometimes and for some of us, it is the only way. At least for now. When you feel tired, be aware of it and honor it. Slow down and rest. This is exactly what your body is telling you.
If you do not stop, you will be stopped anyhow by your wise body – by an injury, pain, illness, anxiety, depression, fatigue, stress, burnout.
The body has its loving ways. It first communicates with us with a gentle whisper, but when we ignore it, then it will scream. So take good care of your body and yourself, and don’t wait too long.
While traveling to North Island this year something happened to me.
Some sunny and windy day while I was visiting Karekare beach a stranger, Maori man came to me and said ‘I have to tell you something. I have two messages for you.’ Before I even asked him from whom are these messages come, he said to me: ‘Wellcome home! Do you know that your ancestors walked this land? I mean the ancestors from thousands of years ago? And now you come back here.’ That was the first message, and from that moment I started to listen to him more carefully. I owe you a small explanation at this point. When I come with my partner Rafal to Aotearoa three years ago I felt that I need some kind of ceremony to welcome this place and people and feel welcomed here. And that day it happened.
As I said there was also the second message. The second one was unclear to me then. It was as follows: ‘You have to dive deeper into your hands-on practice. It is just the beginning. You will learn or you will rather recall more and more.’
We hadn’t met before, he didn’t know who I am and what I do, I hadn’t known him at that stage. Now I know that he is a Matakite, a seer, and a healer with over 30 years of experience. He uses Karakia, energy, Wairua, and physical point work to facilitate healing. He can also see what is hidden, help bring it to the surface to create a better connection.
Now, after few months from that unexpected meeting, I think I am closer to understanding what he meant then.
Recently I started to hear and read messages from bones, about life experiences, emotions, or any other needs of the people, who I am massaging or just touching. Sometimes these messages are very precise, I just know what happened, what needs to be healed, and how to release it, or what needs to be invited. In the beginning, I struggled with it and kept these messages only for myself. I was thinking that it may be my delusions, some kind of autosuggestions I was telling myself that weren’t true. At some point, I dared myself and told my client after the session what his or her bones told me. It was a woman who came to me for the first time and I knew nothing about her. The bones told me some story she carried with her all the time. They said it is time to let go of it, how to do it and that now is the best time to do it. I told this to that woman. I told her that it could only be my imagination and ask her to take only what resonates with her and what she finds useful, and forget about all the rest. Tears appeared in her eyes, she thanked me and said that that was the true story and now she feels ready to let go of all emotions involved and go forward.
Situations like this become more and more often, after Lomi Lomi sessions I give. Different stories, different messages, and guidance appear to be important and meaningful for my clients when I share what I have heard from their bones. I still feel some reserve and I am very cautious with sharing, and yet I feel it and hear it more and more strongly and precisely.
… One time a woman came to me with her arm in a sling after surgery. I asked her if she could remove the sling for the massage and if I could gently include this arm into the massage. She agreed, trusted me and Lomi Lomi. After the session, she showed me how she moves her hand and she decided to not put this arm on a sling.
A man with bowel problems comes to me regularly for a Lomi Lomi session, saying that he has tried many therapies and medications and this massage is the only thing that really helps him.
I had a client in Poland who had been working on traumatic childhood experience that essentially blocked her sexuality and, to some point, even her self-expression. Years of psychotherapy did not help her, but three Lomi Lomi sessions in a row did. The list goes on…
…but does it mean that Lomi Lomi “helps” in all these illnesses, physical or emotional, ailments and discomforts? Does it always work? Does it help everyone?
This is how I see it. Lomi Lomi massage helps you embrace your whole being. It restores balance on many levels and allows you to re-connect with all aspects of yourself, including ability of healing. … and from that point on, it can help with everything. Really! I know, it may sound a bit enigmatic or vague, but this is how I really feel it. It is my experience during and after each massage, no matter what my role is (giver, receiver, or even teacher). 🙂
Most people who come to me for the Lomi Lomi Nui massages session never had this experience before. Some of them never experienced any massage before. They don‘t know what to expect. And sometimes when we don‘t know, we are afraid or feel discouraged.
Lomi Lomi Nui, is a very special and „different“ message (that‘s what most of my clients say about it) but it’s also just a holistic, therapeutic, efficient, and extremely relaxing bodywork practice with ancient traditional background.
Although each session is unique and different from the others, they all have some structure.
Different massage therapists or bodyworkers have a bit different style or protocol, so when you get Lomi Lomi from somebody else, it might look different.Please bear in mind that this is how I do Lomi Lomi Nui.
So, how does Lomi Lomi Nui session with me look like?
When you come, we will start with a short talk. I will offer you some herbal tee and ask you a couple of questions – what you need the most from this massage session? what results are you expected?
I will ask about your health – if you had any injuries, or surgery recently, or if there is anything you want to share with me about your health or life situation? You will have time to ask me questions as well.I will also ask You to think a moment and settle in your mind your intention for this session, like what do you want to release from your body, from your life and what do you want to invite to your body and your life instead. It might be as simple as ‘I just want to relax my tight muscles and feel more with ease in my life’ or as profound as ‘I’m in the life-transforming moment and I need some insights or guidance’. It depends only on you and you don’t have to share this intention with me.
Then I will give you some time in privacy so you can get ready for the session. Leavin the room I will ask you to think about the intention You settled previously and light a candle. Then to take off all of your clothes* and jewelry, put your hair up if it‘s long, lie down on the massage table (on your belly), and cover your body with a pareo/sarong.
During the Lomi Lomi Nui session, your genitals are covered all the time and are not massaged. However, I will ask you to take off your underwear, so I can massage your sides, hips, and gluts. If for any reason, you want to keep your underwear on, it is okay too – in that case, I only recommend that you don‘t wear your favorite undies because they might get oily.
If you can‘t lie on your belly (because, for example, you have some health issues preventing you from lying in this position) I will place you on your side or back.
When you are ready, lying comfortably on a heated massage table, I will come to the room and adjust your position on the table – I will bend your arms and place them next to your body, and rotate your knees and feet a little bit outwards. If you have problems with your, neck, knees, or shoulders, I will make all the necessary adjustments to make sure that you feel comfortable.
After that, I will turn on the music and begin the massage. First I will uncover you, leaving genitals covered with a pareo. I will then apply warm oil on your body and start massaging – usually from the back, moving to the arms and legs. I will be moving your body a lot – bending your legs, stretching and lifting them gently, moving fluently your head, arms, and legs – and you don‘t need to help me in any way, you can just be and breathe.
When I‘m finished massaging your back, I will ask you to turn over:
I will first cover you again with the pareo, then give you a moment to turn, and I will continue massage on the front of your body beginning from your head and shoulders, releasing tensions in this, usually very tight area. And then I will be – again – moving your body a lot, uncovering the parts that I will be massaging– so your arms, legs, abdomen, and chest. Breasts are not massaged in Lomi Lomi Nui, but I will uncover your chest and massage the chest bone and in-between ribs. I will also be doing under-body movements – putting one or two hands under your body and massage your back in this position. Which is extremely pleasant and relaxing and pretty unique.
The last thing I will massage will be your face.
The whole massage will be around 1.5 h or 2h depends on your chosen option and on what will happen during the session. Every massage is unique and sometimes closing the process demands some extra time.
When the massage is finished, I will cover you with a pareo, turn the music down and give you some time just to lie down, observe, and gently coming back, as long as you need. After the massage, I will again give you some time in privacy so you can get dressed and take a shower if you’d like; then we will have a moment to talk if there will be a need for that. I can share with you my insights and answer your questions if some appear during or after the session. And I will offer you heaps of water 🙂 which is very helpful after any kind of bodywork and supports the cleansing process, which began during the massage session.
The Lomi long-stroke on the back sometimes is called the basic move. Basic, because the whole massage practically is built around this one stroke. The secret of this move is in its precision, fluidity, and appropriately applied and steady pressure. The therapist uses his or her body weight, instead of muscle strength to keep the pressure steady. The completely relaxed and soft forearm of the therapist is very close to the client’s spine – so close that it might look from the side that it’s on the spine – but it’s not. The therapist’s forearm slides into a narrow space between the spine and the muscles of the client, pulling them away from the bones, relaxing them, and making more space to create more flexibility in this area.
My friend Magdalena from Iceland, also Lomi Lomi Nui practitioner and teacher use this metaphor while teaching her students: ‘Imagine that your hand is a boat sailing the infinite ocean of your client’s back. The stroke starts on the neck – this is your harbor, where the journey begins. Make sure that you start the journey right by sliding your hand, wrist, and forearm right in between the neck and the shoulder. Then continue relaxed hand, soft forearm, parallel to the spine. You are a boat sailing on the ocean of the body. Think of bones as reefs – you want to avoid them and stay on the soft waters of the muscles. Your forearm – the boat – gracefully maneuvers between the spine and the shoulder blade, then pivots and continues the journey perpendicularly to the spine. Slowly, with steady pressure, going deeper into the body. It travels along the spine until it meets the crest of the pelvis – this is your cliff. Let your forearm slide gently off the cliff and into the harbor on the side of the body. The journey continues. Now Flip your hand palm up, and find the gate – soft part of the hip between the pelvis and femur. Then climb up the buttock, applying steady pressure to the glutes. Continue until your forearm falls off the muscle. Then go back with a long stroke on the side of the body and get ready for the same journey on the other side. And again, again, again, slower or faster, deeper or more gentle – the endless stroke continues, as if you were drawing an infinity symbol on Client’s back.’
I teach the long stroke on the back on the second day of my training. Therefore my students have plenty of time to practice it, and completely immerse in it during giving and receiving sessions, and fully appreciate this amazingly beneficial movement.
If you want to learn Lomi Lomi Nui with me. I invite you for a 5-day individual training in Waimairi Beach, Christchurch.
There are many misunderstandings around Lom Lomi massage. Many believe that this is very gentle, soft, flowing, nice touch, and… nothing more. Sometimes even Lomi Lomi is mistakenly taken as erotic massage. That’s all wrong. Lomi Lomi, and especially Lomi Lomi Nui, the modality I teach and give my clients, is full body massage. Lomi Lomi touches not only our body but also touches our emotions, minds, and soul as well. But back to the body, Lomi Lomi goes deep into the muscle, all the way to the bones. This massage is designed to effortlessly reach deep tensions in our muscles and joints, and release them, but in a gentle way, without pain. It focuses on the surface of the skin as well as on the deeper layers of muscles.
Many people believe that deep tissue massage has to be a hard and painful treatment when it actually can be very gentle and relaxing. Deep is not the same as hard. Working with the tissue rather than on the tissue is paramount. Deep tissue work is archived by sinking down through the varying layers of not only muscles until we reach the level we intend to treat. But this sinking down is far removed from aggressive, brutal manhandling of the body. It comes with listening and nurturing touch, respect, taking time, intuitive tuning into the body.
During the session of Lomi Lom, tensions in the body are released and the balance is restored causing the feeling of relaxation. And that’s exactly how you should feel after any massage which includes deep tissue work. Deep tissue massage, like Lomi, is not painful, at least should not be painful. Still, some believe that the more you suffer on the massage table, and the more bruises you have after, the better the deal. But the truth is, more gain if no pain.
The emotional balance the Lomi Lomi Nui provides can be just as vital and valuable as its physical benefits.
Do you know, that more than 90 percent of illness results from stress alone?
Decreasing physical and emotional stress is important for improving our health and well-being. A 90-minutes Lomi Lomi Nui session can lower cortisol, a hormone that’s produced in response to stress, by an average of 30 percent. When cortisol levels decline, serotonin — one of the body’s anti-pain mechanisms — increases by an average of 28 percent. By lowering cortisol and increasing serotonin, you’re boosting your body’s ability to fight off pain, anxiety, feelings of sadness, and depression.
This Hawaiian massage provides a safe and nurturing place for individuals to relax, refocus, and find clarity. It increases awareness of the mind-body connection, and generates confidence, and enhances self-image and self-worth. Safe nurturing touch helps fulfill the need for human contacts, such as the comforting touch we once received at birth.
For some, massage is the only caring touch they may receive. Lomi Lomi Nui can be considered as a 1.5 or 2 hour-long hug, providing you with a nurturing safe place to rest physically and emotionally.
I provide Lomi Lomi Nui massage for many clients who are living with anxiety and depression, and the day-to-day symptoms those feelings bring. Every one of them finds relief after receiving a 1.5h or 2h massage session of Lomi Lomi Nui, saying they feel more relaxed, calm, and feel a sense of worth. I listen to my clients’ needs, and together, we create a treatment plan that works toward decreasing the symptoms that come with anxiety and depression.
If you are one of the many who experience depression or anxiety or are just overloaded with stress, Lomi Lomi Nui can be an effective part of treatment supporting you to create a sense of relief, empowerment, and the mind-body connection.
‘When your body, mind, and emotions are in balance, then your
MANA – life-giving energy flows freely and you are able to solve your problems and difficult situations with ease; You become more optimistic, joyful, and ready to act; You just come back to your natural state of well-being, the ALOHA state’
Whole my life I have a problem answering one of the most frequently asked questions ‘What do you do?’ For the first half of my life, I tried to explain what is ‘movie marketing’, and now it seems to be even worse. How to explain what is Hawaiian massage called Lomi Lomi Nui?
Everything changed when a few days ago the five-year-old daughter of my friend asked me 3 questions we usually ask meeting someone new: 1. ‘What’s your name?’ 2. ‘Where are you from?’ and 3. ‘What do you do?
The first and second one was easy. ‘My name is Izabella and I come from Poland, which is far away from here.’ I answered, but the third one…
‘I’m a body listener and storyteller, but instead of listening by my ears and telling stories with my mouth I use my hands.’ I responded spontaneously surprising myself. ‘How so?’ She asked me with wide eyes in surprise.
‘Someone comes to me, we chat a while, sometimes we drink delicious herbal tea, and after that, she or he lays on my massage table. The table is pleasantly warm, even during the winter season, and it is very comfy.’ I started, giving myself some time to think about how to develop it further.
‘This table is like a bed? And then, what? How do you listen and tell stories to the body? What are these stories?’ – She asked one question after another.
‘Yes, my massage table in a way is like a bed’ – I answer the easiest question giving my self some to think about the rest of them, and after a while, I continued:
‘When this person is laying comfortably on my massage table, I take a big breath, and close my eyes.’ I said and added: ‘It’s easier to feel when eyes don’t disturb you.’
‘Aha’ – she said with a deep understanding and continued listening to my further explanations.
‘I touch the body, very gently at the beginning – it’s like saying ‘Hello! It’s nice to meet you. How are you doing today?’ And it’s all without a single word, using hands only. And then the body begins to tell its stories. My hands listen carefully, moving smoothly around the body; Head tells me its own story, then neck, spine, stomach, both legs, and hands, even the smallest finger.
‘Ah … what are the stories?’ she inquired.
‘These are very different stories. Some of them are pleasant even funny, but there are also unpleasant stories about fatigue, helplessness, full of anger, grief or sometimes deep sadness’ I said, and continued’ ‘You know, when you experience something nice, for example, a warm day on the beach with lots of fun, your body will remember it, and this pleasant memory will cause a relaxed and nice feeling in your body. Otherwise, when you experience something unpleasant, for example, farewell with your best friend, and sadness because of that – your body also will remember it, but it will cause some discomfort in your body. Some parts of the body or the whole body may become tense, stiff, or even painful. Have you ever notice that? When you are sad or angry, have you noticed some unpleasant feelings in your belly too?
‘hmm, sometimes it happens‘ she said and became sad.
‘You see? And our body remembers all these stories and collect them in our belly and also in our muscles, bones… Pleasant stories cause relaxation and nice feelings but these unpleasant ones, well, after some time they might cause some problems, bigger pain and sometimes even diseases.’ I said. She nodded understandingly, looking sad again, and asked me
‘Can we not ‘remember’ these unpleasant stories, or forget them?’ I was really surprised at her deep level of understanding of my explanation and after a while of reflection, I answered
‘When our body tells all these unpleasant stories, then it doesn’t have to remember them anymore.’ I said.
‘Oh, I understand now, and you listen to these unpleasant stories. And then the body can forget them and not get sick, right? – she said enthusiastically.
‘That’s right’ – I said and admitted ‘Sometimes there are too many of them at once and I invite this person to visit me again.’
‘And now tell me about the stories you tell to the body’ – she said pointing at me.
‘OK’- I said, sighing with relief, and thought ‘This should go easier’.
‘I only tell nice stories.’
“Like the bedtime stories my mommy tells me?’
‘Maybe a bit, although probably in my stories happens less.’ I answered, smiled, and continued.
‘Just like you fall asleep listening to your mum’s story, the same happens with the person lying on my massage table. She or he relaxes and falls asleep listening to my handmade storytelling; Sometimes I even hear slight snoring.’ – She giggled joyfully, and in a moment she continued her inquisitive questions.
‘What your stories are about?’
‘There are lots of stories. One of them is about a sunny day on a white sandy beach. White fluffy clouds flow across the blue sky, and ocean waves gently touch the sand. Tall coconut trees move smoothly against the blue sky…’
‘Coconut trees don’t grow on the beach.’ – she said very seriously.
‘In Hawaii islands, where these stories come from, they grow’ – I replied slightly mocking her.
‘Hawaii islands?’ – she asked with curiosity.
‘Yes, stories, I tell, originally come from Hawaii, the islands in the Pacific Ocean. They are like New Zealand but slightly smaller. And all these stories are really about the same, our true nature. Hawaiians call it the Aloha state. And these stories bring relaxation and peace to the body and remind the body how to feel truly happy and healthy. Our body sometimes forgets it, especially when it remembers more unpleasant than pleasant stories, you know…?’ It was probably too much and too boring for her, so she briefly said
‘Oh …’ and ran to play with her brother. She did it so quickly so I couldn’t tell her ‘I’m grateful for your inquisitive questions! Thanks to you I finally understood what this is all about and what I really do.
’ And from now on, when someone asks me “What do you do? I have a great answer: ‘I am a body listener and storyteller, but I use my hands instead of ears and mouth.’
People come to me for a massage session once a week, once a month, and sometimes even once in a lifetime. Recently someone of you asked me after Lomi Lomi Nui massage session: ‘when should I come next time?’ And my answer was: I do not know. Listen to your body and follow what it needs.
I am not the one to tell you how often you should get a massage. You are the one. Your body will tell you. If you are connected to your body, you will just feel it.
My own experience tells me that it is deeply healing and transforming to get Lomi Lomi Nui two-three times a week (miracles happen then, believe me).
But ultimately, it is always you and your wise body that knows.
I have tremendous respect for body wisdom. The best thing we can do for ourselves is to trust that wisdom, to listen to what our bodies want to tell us.
Our bodies whisper to us all the time. And it’s really wise to listen to its whispers so that you do not have to hear its screams.
I have been thinking of those of you who feel need a more regular Lomi Lomi Nui experience. I’d like to make it more affordable for you.
If you become one of my regulars and visit me at least once a month – the price for You will be $170 for 2h session and $120 for 1.5 h session
Contact me if you feel the call to get even more frequent Lomi Lomi Nui experience, but struggling financially – I am sure that we will find the right solution.
And whatever you do – just always follow these whispers of your wise body.
Today I am with this question: how to explain what kind of touch Lomi Lomi Nui is, to somebody who has never experienced it?
I get many asking for massage sessions, and I always try to find the best words to describe what kind of massage they can expect. But it´s not easy. I do my best to talk about touch, but to talk about it will always be… “the finger that points the moon, not the moon itself”.
I will try, however…
Lomi Lomi Nui is both very gentle and very deep. It is soft and flowing, but it also goes deep into muscles. It is relaxing and not painful, but at the same time, it´s efficient and effective. It´s this kind of touch that is loving, mindful, and caring, and at the same time melts all your tensions, without being violent.
Some of my friends said that it´s like doing yoga, but better because you don´t have to do anything.
And the other day I heard from my client, that it was very soft but the body felt like after a good gym training.
Make an appointment for your Lomi Lomi Nui session and experience this amazing massage yourself!